Was I the problem in my relationship?
Your texts already know. Find out who started it. It might be you.
Reads your whole message history, both sides, same rules. Not six screenshots you picked.
Works with iMessage (needs a Mac), WhatsApp and Instagram exports.
Why nobody you've asked can answer it
Your friends heard your side. Their friends heard theirs. Your therapist heard the version you remembered on a Tuesday. The screenshot apps read the six messages you chose, and the trouble with the six messages you chose is that you chose them.
Ask "was I the problem in my relationship" of people who weren't there and you get loyalty, not an answer. The messages were there. All of them, in order, with timestamps.
What the report shows
Who raised the heat first
Fight by fight. Counted, not remembered.
Who escalated
Every time the temperature went up, and whose message turned it.
What was true
"You always," "you never," "you said." Each one checked against what was actually said, in both directions.
What you each wanted
Under "stop" and "take responsibility" there's usually something softer. We find it in what actually ended the fights.
Escalated 14 times
3 claims didn't hold up
Escalated 22 times
1 claim didn't hold up
What each of them wanted: J kept asking to be believed. R kept asking to be chosen. Most of the nine fights were those two colliding.
The rules
Same rules for both of you
Whoever paid doesn't get a discount.
Every finding is cited
Each one points to the exact message. If it can't be cited, it isn't said.
Labels aren't findings
"Gaslighting," "toxic," "narcissist" get checked like any other claim. Not won by whoever typed more.
Words, not minds
Texts show what was said, not what anyone meant. So that's all it reports.
Where your messages go
The analysis runs on your computer, through your own Claude account. Your messages go to Claude exactly as if you had pasted them in yourself, and never to us. We don't store them, and no person reads them. The report is a file on your computer; delete it and it's gone.
Your ex is never contacted and never notified. Nothing about this is visible to anyone but you.
What you'll need: a Claude account, plus a Mac for iMessage, or a WhatsApp or Instagram export from any phone.
Find out who started it
Three quick questions. Your answers don't touch the analysis; they tell us what to build first.
Where are most of your messages?
Is it over?
Gut call: who started most of it?
Your full report
One time. Your whole history, both sides, every finding cited.
It only sees texts, so phone calls and in-person fights aren't in it, and the report says how much of the story it could see. If your messages don't hold enough to answer the question, you'll know before you pay, and you pay nothing.
Reserving is free. Nothing is charged now.
We're opening in small batches.
Leave your email and you're in the first batch. First-batch price: $49. Nothing is charged until your report is ready, and you can say no then.
One email when it's your turn. That's it.
You're on the list.
Know someone else who keeps asking who started it?
Questions
Will it take my side?
It can't. Both of you are held to the same rules, and every finding is cited. A report that always agrees with the buyer is just a friend with a subscription.
Why not just paste my texts into ChatGPT?
You can. It will read what fits, tend to side with whoever wrote more and wrote it better, and cite nothing. That's the exact problem this was built to fix: it checks every claim against the record, holds both people to the same rules, and shows you the message behind each finding.
What if it says it was me?
Then you'll know which fights, which messages, and what you were asking for when you sent them. That's a lot more useful than a verdict. The report is yours alone, and what you do with it is too.
What if we're still together?
Then the better question is "am I the problem in my relationship?" The report works the same way.
Is this therapy?
It's a record, not therapy. A therapist can do a lot more with a record than with a memory, so bring it.
Does it diagnose anyone?
It won't call anyone a narcissist. It tells you what was said, by whom, how often, and whether it held up.
What if I'm afraid of my partner?
Then this isn't the tool you need first. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788.
When does it open?
Soon, in small batches. The list above is how you get into the first one.