Am I the problem in my relationship?
You're still in it, and you keep having the same fight. Everyone you asked already drew the horns on somebody. We count the messages instead.
Your whole history, not six screenshots you picked.
- J: escalated 14x · claims false 3 · wanted to be believed
- R: said it first 6 of 9 · escalated 22x · wanted to be chosen
His friends already decided.
One fight, marked up.
This is literally what happens to your messages. Every one gets read in order, with what it was answering.
Who raised the heat first
Not who yelled loudest. Who turned it first, and what they were answering.
Check the claim
"You never tell me where you are" is a claim about the record. So we check the record.
Count the "always"
"Always" and "never" get counted against what actually happened.
Was the heat earned?
Getting angry at a false accusation isn't the same as starting it. Heat that answers a false claim gets marked earned, so the person who snapped isn't automatically the villain.
Am I the problem, or is it the pattern?
When you're in the middle of it, every fight feels like the first one. It usually isn't. Most couples have two or three fights they keep having, with new details each time.
"Am I the problem in my relationship" is a hard question to answer from inside your own head. Your messages have the answer in order, with timestamps: who raises the heat, what gets said that isn't true, and what actually ends it when it ends. Some couples read the report together. That works better than reading it at each other.
Same rules. Both of you.
Whoever paid doesn't get a discount
The buyer is held to exactly the same standard as the person they're asking about.
If it can't be cited, it isn't said
Every finding points to the exact message. No vibes, no summaries of summaries.
Labels aren't findings
"Gaslighting," "toxic," "narcissist" get checked like any other claim. Not won by whoever typed more.
Words, not minds
Texts show what was said, not what anyone meant. So that's all it reports. And under the fights, what each of you kept asking for.
Where your messages go
The analysis runs on your computer, through your own Claude account. Your messages go to Claude exactly as if you had pasted them in yourself, and never to us. We don't store them, and no person reads them. The report is a file on your computer; delete it and it's gone.
Your ex is never contacted and never notified.
What you'll need: a Claude account, plus a Mac for iMessage, or a WhatsApp or Instagram export from any phone.
Find out who started it
Three quick questions. Your answers don't touch the analysis; they tell us what to build first.
Where are most of your messages?
Is it over?
Gut call: who started most of it?
Your full report
One time. Your whole history, both sides, every finding cited.
It only sees texts, so phone calls and in-person fights aren't in it, and the report says how much of the story it could see. If your messages don't hold enough to answer the question, you'll know before you pay, and you pay nothing.
Reserving is free. Nothing is charged now.
We're opening in small batches.
Leave your email and you're in the first batch. First-batch price: $49. Nothing is charged until your report is ready, and you can say no then.
One email when it's your turn. That's it.
You're on the list.
Know someone else who keeps asking who started it?
Questions
Will it take my side?
It can't. Both of you are held to the same rules, and every finding is cited. A report that always agrees with the buyer is just a friend with a subscription.
Why not just paste my texts into ChatGPT?
You can. It will read what fits, tend to side with whoever wrote more and wrote it better, and cite nothing. That's the exact problem this was built to fix.
What if it says it was me?
Then you'll know which fights, which messages, and what you were asking for when you sent them. That's a lot more useful than a verdict. The report is yours alone, and what you do with it is too.
What if it's already over?
Then the question is "was I the problem in my relationship?" The report works the same way, and it can help you not repeat it.
Is this therapy?
It's a record, not therapy. A therapist can do a lot more with a record than with a memory, so bring it.
Does it diagnose anyone?
It won't call anyone a narcissist. It tells you what was said, by whom, how often, and whether it held up.
What if I'm afraid of my partner?
Then this isn't the tool you need first. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788.
When does it open?
In small batches. The list above is how you get into the first one.